I can’t begin to share the rubbish floating around my head…it’s a combination of uncomfortable moments, stupid guy stuff, a few lies I like to tell myself when I’m worn down and it has all been running on loop for going on 4 hours. I passed by an accent mirror in my house and paused to look into it and I burst with laughter…because life is so funny and uncomfortable and confusing…
As an aside, I’d like to offer a disclaimer: If you read my blog posts back to back, it will likely be annoying. Like Brendan Frasier’s character in Bedazzled who is “the most sensitive man in the world” and he cries at the beauty of the bird, flower, the girls’ eyes, sunset and decides it’s touched him to the point he’s written a song about it…and the lady friend he desires thinks he’s a wimp and runs off with some manly jerk. Yeah like that. I swear in real I’m more dynamic. (crosses fingers)
The thing that has me all tangled up in my underwear. Is this guy! He’s killin’ me! Why don’t guys know when to walk away? I know when to walk away. If you up and decided one day you want to be friends with me and for two weeks straight you talk to me almost all day everyday. I can’t speak for all girls, but this girl thinks it means you’re interested. Either that or you give your time out like it’s a Halloween candy free for all! I don’t I spend time on ANYTHING that doesn’t matter to me (except this blog, jk).
Time is an extremely limited resource…no expiration date, but it definitely expires and at any moment. So why the hell are you going to spend precious moments of your life courting or not courting someone of little or no interest to you?? I don’t get it.
So he invests this time in me then goes out of town…being normal I say “have a safe trip” and silly me I have the expectation that he will have something to share with me after that. No. Fast forward two months, Friday. I get a joke about big black “eggplant” and we all know what the eggplant emoji stands for….WTF? So you better believe I call his ass out…I said you “ghosted” me for 2 months, are you just bored or did you have a reason to pop back up on my radar? This is the funny part…HE tells ME I’m making a “mountain out of a mole hill” because I want to know why he suddenly thinks I want to talk/laugh about big black controversial eggplants after not hearing from him for 2 months. My very lovely african american friend, assured me – one does not joke about a black man’s junk. And I tend to agree.
Also, man card revoked. What dude says making a mountain out of a mole hill?
So again in my life I realize – Dating is hard. Hell, not dating is hard…whatever happens between sitting on your couch alone and sitting on the couch next to someone you married…who knows? Getting from lonely couch to cuddly couch is damn near impossible. I don’t how people get married. I’m hoping to figure it out as I’d like to experience marital bliss one day.
So because we can’t control anyone or anything outside of ourselves in life, we have to play to our strengths by controlling what we can. So I give you… With the list again
8 Suggestions for Interpersonal Relationship-“ing”
- Treat yourself like you would your best friend. Others will follow your example. You teach people how to treat you.
- In dealing with anyone, be direct. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- If you are not getting what you want out of a relationship or friendship, DO NOT have a meltdown. Have a conversation. People are not mind readers. Be clear in what yo
want and just because you ask does not mean you will get it.
- Drink coffee (because it’s awesome and you should)
- Be kind to yourself when #1 & #2 don’t go your way. Remember you can’t control the other person. Repeat #4
- Believe people when they show you who they are.
Actions speak louder than words.
- Do NOT try to “fix” another person. You cannot fix another person you can only love them.
- If #2, #3, and #6 go sideways – walk away. You’ll probably need something stronger than coffee.
Check these out if you’re a single woman and need a laugh